This seems to be a hot topic when speaking with other moms and honestly I get asked this quite frequently. How is the transition from two to three kids? Well, I’m going to break it all down for you in this article!
Let’s first talk about the expecting moms and new moms. This is the scariest stage as a parent; the unknown. What is it going to be like? Can I do this? You quickly find out that you’re a natural at this parenting thing and it isn’t that scary after all. Maybe a little exhausting but that eventually gets better. Some moms may argue that going from no kids to having one kid is the HARDEST. This might be true when you consider that you are use to only worrying about yourself. You can go an do anything, anytime you want. What I will say about this first stage is that it hard but I would have to argue that it is not the hardest. I look back on those days of just having one little girl and think, wow, I had it made in the shade. I can laugh about it now that I have three little ones!
Next, going from one to two kids. When I was pregnant with my second daughter, I had so many people tell me how hard it was going from one to two kids. I was really nervous about this because logistically it made sense. A whole other person to worry about and take care of. Could I take care of two small kids? How could I love another child as much as I love my first? Trust me, you do! Your heart expands with each child you have. Going from one to two kids was the easiest transition for me. I already had a 19 month old daughter and was already in “baby mode” that it wasn’t that hard. That being said, it was not easy. You hold tremendous mom guilt that you have to now split your time and all you want is to make everyone happy. When I had my second daughter, Ava, my oldest daughter, Brielle, disliked her for at least the first year. All of the pictures I have of them that first year, Brielle is crying and screaming. Fast forward three years and they are best friends. If you are going from one to two kids, trust me when I say, you are going to be alright. It gets easier. Your heart will double and it will be so amazing for not only you but also for your first child.
For the brave moms that have or are going to be going from two to three kids, you deserve a high five. I like to call us the, “warriors”. This is not for the weak of hearts. This is when you are outnumbered by little ones in your house. When I would speak to mom’s with more than two kids they would say anything after two kids is SIMPLE. That you could have three, four or five kids and it’s all the same. EXCUSE ME, I BEG TO DIFFER! I say this with such a light heart because everyone and every family has a different perspective. In my honest opinion, going from two to three kids was the most difficult. It probably didn’t help that I had my daughters were very close in age. When I had my last daughter, I had a 3 1/2 year old and a 2 year old. My hands were full, but not as full as my heart. Now that my youngest is 1 1/2 years old things are much easier and I would not have it any other way. The hard work was so worth it. The best advice that I have gotten is that you will never regret having another child but you might regret not having another child. Everything truly happens for reason.
Let me know down below in the comment section about your hardest transition. I always love hearing what other moms have to say.
Thank you for your support and I will talk to you in my next blog!